Taylor Nolan, MS, NCC, LMHCA
I can't believe I'm saying this but I officially have my own private practice. All of the pieces are finally in place and I'm ready to start. When I reflect back on the last few years there have been so many life transitions and accomplishments leading up to this. I often find myself minimizing these events in my life but I realize it is actually okay to be proud of yourself. And I am proud of myself for starting this new chapter.
Getting my business license was an emotional moment for me. I took a moment to really put this achievement in perspective. I was raised by a single mom, and I am the first person in my family to go to college--let alone get a master's degree and start a small business. In a weird sense I felt proud of my parents, my achievements are also their achievements. I wouldn't be in the place I am without the support of my mom or my stepfather.
This transition brings up many emotions, some of which are: excited, vulnerable, proud, and nervous. Starting a business, creating something and putting it out there in the world, is one of the most vulnerable things you can do. It brings up this inherent fear of failure, for example, “What if no one buys my soaps?”
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of creativity, innovation, and change"
To combat these fears and this vulnerability I take a few things into consideration. First, you’ve been courageous! You have taken a chance. You wouldn’t have known the possible outcome of success or failure if you hadn’t tried in the first place. Second, what even is failure? This partially depends on your goals, but I also believe that there actually is no such thing. From every conflict or “failure” you learn something, you still gain an experience, and you can still continue to strive for success…so can you really fail? No. (Perhaps this is too much rationalizing of fear, but hey it makes sense to me!)
Also, the concept of uncertainty in starting a new journey can be an absolute whirlwind. But, that is actually the beauty of life. We don't know what is going to happen, or what is going to be. We can try to plan for it, but we don't always have control over it. So what do we do? Lean into the discomfort, and have faith to believe in what is uncertain.
Through this process of self-talk I can ground myself. It is okay to start a new journey and not know the outcome, it is uncomfortable, but you'll be alright regardless. The uncertainty, anxiety, nervousness, or vulnerability in doing something different or new is alright to feel. Once I can gain acceptance of these feelings, I'm then able to actually experience the excitement of creating a business and the change it will bring within our society. My passion for counseling lies in empowering people to pursue the things they are passionate about and find meaning in, so here I am, pursuing mine.
Question for thought:
- What thoughts and feelings go through your mind when starting a new journey?